Written by Shannon Sweeting-Woods
This Valentine’s Day you might be thinking about love! When celebrating love comes to mind you may think of a significant other, a child, a parent, or another dear relative or friend.
But what about yourself?
Arguably, you are the most influential relationship in your life! I know, the idea of self-love can sound strange and unfamiliar at first. But here’s the thing, the more love we can offer to ourselves, the more we can truly offer to those around us.
Self-love is the key to a more peaceful world.
With all of the uncertainty we are facing, and elements that are out of our control, we can find refuge in our relationship with ourselves. It is a place where we have a scope of influence and can even experience a sense of empowerment.
That being said, love is not an emotion meant for isolation. Our capacity to love is also built and nurtured when we experience being loved by others. Self-love promotes receiving love; and receiving love promotes self-love. If you did not form the belief that you are lovable or experience the feeling of being loved by others as a child, it might be important to connect with your inner child today, and begin to get curious about what they might need from you now.
So, on this Valentine’s Day: what can you do to practice self-love?
elf-discover: Make space to engage in a long-held desire to try a new activity or return to an activity that evoked joy in your childhood.
liminate a stressor that works against self-love: For some people, this can mean reducing or eliminating: social media exposure, exposure to negative messages about body image through media, or reliance on a particular substance or behaviour for comfort or soothing.
earn to love boundaries: Boundaries are an act of self-love, and they can even allow for greater closeness and connection with others.
ind inspiration: Connect with the creative arts, books, podcasts, movement, etc. Find your people.
ive unapologetically: Turn up the volume on the authentic voice; turn down the volume on sociocultural scripts that suggest you should be someone you are not. Restore connection with your mind, body, and soul.
wn your emotions: Meet yourself where you are at by turning towards your current emotions and experiences with kindness, compassion, and curiosity rather than judgment and criticism.
alues: Explore, understand, and connect with your values.
mbrace your body’s needs and desires: Listen deeply. Challenge messages that promote body shame. Move your body.
If you are ready to talk about self love, we’re here to listen.
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